technology-and-relationships

Imagine the world of tomorrow: residential quarters that reach the skies, living compounds beneath the ocean, lunar stations, and settlements on Mars…

Seeing as people spend an increasing amount of time online communicating, doing business, scheduling appointments, and ordering anything from food to cleaning services over the internet, it is quite possible that they will soon go for the safe and comfortable sex-by-order in their apartments instead of going out, roaming the bars and bringing strangers to their homes or following them to their places.

It is going to be enough to put on a smart outfit that is literally skin-tight, connect to the friendly interface of an app or device and program the desired activities, selecting your favorite music and lighting along the way. The artificial muscles of the outfit will do the rest.

Where does that put online dating websites? One could get acquainted on a dating site and allow each other access to their respective smart outfits, so it is not a machine that does all the work but an actual person’s moves are transmitted. Of course you would both be wearing virtual reality helmets to make the experience all-absorbing. It might be a good solution for couples who have a long-distance relationship.

Actually with the use of technologies you are no longer limited by just one partner, you can have intercourse with several partners at a time, and not all of them have to be human. Technologies present a great opportunity to make your wildest dreams come to life.

However dating is not only about sex, it is also about relationships and intimacy.

In the dark future scenario there is little place for love. Children are born out of test tubes, their parents drowning in bodily pleasures. Alternatively, in the case of Armageddon, if a small part of the population survives the earthquake, or the flooding, or the pandemic disease and zombie invasion, the focus will be on procreating and increasing the population to survive further. Time enough for love now, isn’t there?

Looking at the latest developments, we see that many entrepreneurs in the dating industry maintain a scientific approach to dating. They do genetic testing to match people, and organize events where people smell each other’s sweaty shirts, and so on.

It’s easy to reason out where the things might go. Your device du jour collects a drop of your blood or saliva or hair sample and analyses it. Probably there will be just a chip implanted inside your body. So the DNA analysis is made, which will then go to the main database and match you with the people who you are most likely to be physically attracted to and who you are most likely to have healthy children with. It means better matching by physical characteristics – something one cannot fake or deliberately change.

At the same time, due to the latest findings it may become possible to find out what you actually find attractive in a potential partner’s appearance. The system might understand the patterns in the facial structure of the people you like by swiping ‘yes’ to them on Tinder and Tinder-like apps.

Also, we cannot ignore the fact that some people have a real talent in matching others. Sometimes technology alone is just not enough. Either some advanced technology that can predict human behavior comes into play, or the real human beings meet you in person and see who they can match you with.

Let’s say gadgets rule the world but in a good way. You are wearing your smartwatch and you have previously indicated that you are looking to meet someone. There is a lot of information on you in the global database, what with the big data and all, as to what kind of people you usually date, what your preferences are regarding the age, hair color, body type, profession, hobbies, financial standing, and so on and so forth. So, once a matching person – who is also looking to meet someone – comes near you, you both get a notification – the watch starts to glow or emits a beam pointing in the direction where your would-be significant other stands or walks.

You approach each other and, say, shake your hands if you are both interested. Then, the software looks through the places that you both like to visit (all info kept in the mega database that we’ve mentioned) and suggests a place where you could go and spend your first date.

If you are both busy each following your schedule, the system will compare the schedules and suggest a time when your meeting can take place. While on a date, the global database will prompt you both on each other’s favorite topics and hobbies so you have something to talk about.

While marriage may soon become a thing of the past, we will still need relationships to make us feel part of something bigger and better than ourselves. Technology could be very useful here by offering helpful tips at the appropriate moments. As in, right now your partner is in a vulnerable mood and expects you to hug and kiss them gently as a sign of your support and affection.

How could technology define a person’s mood? Our guess is – by level of hormones in the blood, facial expressions, pupil dilation, and by its omnipresent knowledge of what goes on in our lives. Was your partner’s favorite café closed at lunch time, did they have an unpleasant conversation with their boss, was it raining on their way home? No matter how small, these events can affect a mood even if you do not consciously realize it.

 

So where does this all leave online dating sites? In a place where they still are a meeting spot, for different purposes, be it hookup arrangements, a third-party/intermediary/plugin for the smart sex outfits… I gather there will still remain the old-fashioned services where you indicate what you are looking for in a man/woman and go with the fate.