dating at 76

Barbara Rose Brooker has been single for over 28 years.

Six years ago, at age 70, Brooker tried a new approach to her love life: online dating.

A 2012 Bowling Green State University study described people over 60 as the “fastest-growing demographic in online dating,” and even lifestyle mogul Martha Stewart, 71, is giving Match.com a go.

Brooker, now 76, describes herself as a proud member of the “boomer hottie” generation and has penned a new novel, The Viagra Diaries, detailing the exploits of a 60-something love columnist. Brooker ventured deep into the world of online dating — joining sites like eHarmony, Plenty of Fish, Match.com and more — in the hopes of finding a relationship, but also to do research for her book and learn how other boomer hotties were looking for love online (the oldest person she met: An 88-year-old man Brooker says was “charming, absolutely charming”). Brooker is also a blogger for The Huffington Post.

For our “Life As” series, Brooker took HuffPostTech inside the life of an online dater in her 70s, told us what septuagenarian men lie about most, and gave us the scoop and what happens when online dates go horribly awry.

What was most surprising to you about online dating?

What really surprised me was the overwhelming response from men who are looking for love and at the same time are so terrified of age. They’d say things like, “You’re an interesting woman, but I really need to be with someone 45,” or they’d say, “You want to go to Viagra falls?” Or they were still playing the role of men from other, lost generations. Very, “I’m Tarzan, you Jane” kind of thing. Most of the men won’t respond if you say your real age.

What did you consider the best and worst online dating sites?

I really did like JDate.com, and I also liked Match.com. With Match.com, you can meet anyone from any culture. It’s diversified, but I think it’s 99 percent honest. It seemed very comfortable and I never really, outside of one or two times, got any horrible lies.

I disliked eHarmony intensely with all the rules. I remember when I first filled out its questionnaire, I got a notice: “You’re not fit for our site.”

There are some sites that really don’t want you if you’re older, like eHarmony. They’ll deny it of course, but it was so obvious. There was another one that I actually called. I got a live person on the phone and I asked, “Do you have something against someone over 60?” and they said, “We prefer no older than 50.” There’s a lot of disease still in online dating and that disease is ageism.

What’s your advice for other “boomer hotties,” as you call them, who want to online date?

I always say: Talk to the younger people and find out what you should do technologically. I have a son-in-law who’s a multimedia geek, and he makes lists for me. I’d get somebody you feel comfortable with and you’re not afraid to feel stupid with to help and show you. And then gradually, start learning. I wouldn’t do it all at once because I’m still overwhelmed by the sites I’m on and they’re growing so fast.

It’s better than going to a spa and it‘s better than getting Botox because with just one app you feel really cool and you feel younger. I want to be with the next generation, I don’t want to be with the last generation. And the only way you can do it is through technology.

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